When I met Jimmy, I knew he was a musician. I didn't know exactly what that meant since I had never dated one before, nor had I ever dated a white, long haired rocker. Boy did I have a wake up call coming!
Before I continue, let me introduce you...this is Jimmy.
He is talented as hell, and in about a BAGILLION (no exaggeration) bands. This was simple and easy before we were married, before our baby boy came along (note we both had kids coming into this but they were older). We had our son 4 years after dating, once that happened, it was a whole new world. Long gone were the nights out "hanging" with the band, the drinking, the spontaneous movies or trips....even dining out was a different experience.I AM happy, let me say that right out front. It's not at all easy and I do believe that it takes a special woman to deal with this type of lifestyle. If you're jealous, insecure or clingy...this is NOT for you. In the words of Iron Maiden RUN TO THE HILLS! Find yourself a nice banker or accountant and call it a day. For me, I had already been a pretty independent, single mother so it wasn't a big stretch for me but it did take some adjustments after our baby was born.
I guess you can take this blog as a bit of an information session. If you're dating a musician or thinking of dating one make sure you understand what it will take;
*Musicians are on the road - you cannot be a stage five clinger!
*Musicians have "fans", a lot of these are female. You have to trust your man or YOU will go crazy.
*You have to have your own life, hobbies, interests & friends
*You have to know how to handle things at home (top to bottom)
*You cannot be everywhere all the time with them
*Most of all, you have to be patient.....VERY patient.
There is a lot more to it, but those are some good starting basics. Don't get me wrong, it can be pretty cool. I've seen parts of the world that I never thought I would see, I've met cool people and seen some awesome shows! It has it upsides for sure. BUT it can be lonely. My husband is gone sometimes 4 to 5 days a week with practices and shows. Sometimes he's gone for days at out of state (or country) shows.
I have always said that he is one of the most talented people I know. I know that he should be a rockstar in his own right, but the music industry is not easy. Sometimes it's not about what you can do but who you know...which is very unfortunate for the really talented people out there.
Lately, Jimmy has gotten some of the validation that I knew he deserved all along. I am hoping and praying that something big happens for him. I know that will mean less of him for me, but I love him and there is nothing like seeing someone do what is their true passion in life.
I love you baby, good luck!!!
ps: if you want to check out some awesome bands click on these links
www.cerebellion1.com
www.myspace.com/soulbleedarmy
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